Two Sides to Every Fence

Welcome to Man Reason!!! Phone post three! The picture thang (yes, thang) didn't work on the last post, so this will be try two. I continue to push myself in thinking outside the box. How did you like the more educated non-sexual non-relationship posting? Oh, you didn't read them, well you should, they are actually surprisingly good. I'm bias though. Today though, Man Reason is traveling back in time to what I do best, relationship advice. It's always the women's fault. The end. Case closed. Problem solved. No this post isn't about blaming the female spouse for ruining the relationship, no, this post is about life after your ruined relationship. You see people stay in relationships because of fear or comfort, even though the writing is on the wall that it's over. This post will dig deep into life after death. Welcome to Man Reason!!!
Two Sides to Every Fence
So, you are in bed next to the person that you thought was the person that you would spend the rest of your life with and you realize that that isn't true any longer. Now what? Your mind starts wandering and wondering what would life be without your spouse. Here's where the dilemma begins. On one side of the fence your life is great. On the other side of the fence, your life is horrible. So which one would truely happen?
Side one: the grass is Greener
Yes, your spouse is gone and your life has never been better. It's a wonder why you stayed in a relationship with that person to begin with. So how great is your life? I don't know, everybody's happiness is different, but when I posed this question to a friend, he replied with this answer: Man, I will be stress free. No one to nag me about bullshit. No more dealing with bullshit. Just relaxing having a good time. May even meet someone who knows how to treat a good man. I didn't want to be bias so I posed this question to a female friend too. She answered: I would travel. She did not elaborate any more, accept stating places she would go. So life is great, you are happy, and youu die of euphoria. That's not the life you here about in books, on television, or during movies. No, you here about the grass not being greener.
Side two: the grass is not Greener
So you have left your spouse in hopes of greener pastures and what happens, your life takes an ugly turn for the worse. Here again, I can not say what these means for you imparticular, but judging by answers that I was given when I asked this question, the main concern is dying alone. Loneliness. Losing money (mostly a guy with kids answer). Not being able to enjoy life. Sad, yes, this life is. Yoda. This is the life that keeps you hanging in a relationship that isn't working. This is the life you see in movies, television, and written in books. Bad dog for running away! There's your choices, which life will you end up with? Somethings are out of your control, yes, but if you want my opinion (even if you don't want it, you are about to receive it) enjoy your life regardless of which side you get. Then a bad situation to a good situation. It can be done. Ok maybe I've seen too many movies also. It can't be done, accept the miserable life you have now. Man Reason!!!!

Development Journal Two

Welcome to Man Reason!!! Here is my second post from my educational side. I don't have much to say beforehand, enjoy. Welcome to Man Reason!!!

The Latimer Theory

The Bronfenbrenner Ecological System Theory focuses on the development of a child through several layers of influences, which include the micro, meso, and exo-systems (if you want to know what they mean, look it up). I looked at this, then looked at my step kids and said that there is something not right about the Ecological System Theory. Not that it isn’t right, but I could modify the idea. So I did. 

Just think back to all the things that influence your life, and all the lives that you have influenced. Now the Berk book does stated that in the EST (Ecological System Theory) the child can be influenced and does influence. I created what I am calling the Latimer Theory, which shows the overlap of the influences and how each influence on the child influences the influences. Keep up, did I lose you. It’s a circular theory, much like the water cycle. Culture/Society Influences the family/friends that influence the child that influences the family/friends that influence the culture/society that influences...you get it.

 

THE HUMANUS CIRCLE

I have combined any human interactions that the child receives under the circle that is known as the Humanus Circle. This includes family, friends, and anyone else that you may come in contact with (teachers, strangers, the ice cream man, etc). In some systems, friends and family are separate, but I believe that though each have different influences, they themselves influence each other as well as all your human interaction that is why I combined them into one circle. Example: Your parents do not like your friends, which influences your relationship with your those friends, that influences the relationship with your parents.

THE CULTURE AND SOCIAL CIRCLE

The second circle (what am I, Dante) is what I call the Culture and Social. This is society as a whole influence on the child. This includes rules, laws, fads, trends, beliefs, and religion. Most of what is within this circle is non-tangible.

THE NONDETEMINISTIC EXPERIENCE CIRCLE

Now the next two circles are my creation, so I think. The first circle is called the Nondeterministic Experience. Simply put, when face with a decision the child will respond in a nondetermined nonconditioned way. When this happens, the consequence will influence the child in what way? The actions of the child then influences the other circles. This circle is best explained and seen if you place a person in a situation that they have never been in before. 

UNIVERSAL RUBRIC

The last circle is the Universal Rubric. How do the things that man cannot control such as gravity, day and night, what planet they live on, life and death influence them? This circle influences the other three circle and though man will one day be able to control most of the universal circle, there are things that man may never be able to control. Man though can influence this circle with things such as global warming that then influence the other circles. I also add genetics in this circle though man can now do some genetic altering it is not an everyday occurrence.

All four of the circles are the influences that affect a child in my Latimer Theory. I applied my own theory to my stepson, and thought to myself, “I may be on to something here?”

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