Fulfillment: The Art of Cheating

Welcome to Man Reason!!! As long as there are relationships, there will be cheating. People cheat; it’s a fact of life like death. Accept it.

FULFILLMENT: THE ART OF CHEATING

The misconception is that the only form of cheating is physical. Let’s clear that up with first defining cheating.

Cheating: Fulfilling one’s needs with someone other than your spouse.

Now understand that cheating is more than physical. Example, suppose you enjoy golfing, but your spouse, whom has the ability to play golf, refuses to play with you. Instead, you play golf with someone other than your spouse. The need is to play golf, it is being fulfilled by someone other than your spouse, and therefore this would be cheating.

Need+Fulfillment-Spouse=Cheating

The question posed to Man Reason was:

… why is there a nonstop need to have it and from numerous partners?


I know what your spouse is thinking right now, “That’s bullshit. Playing golf and sleeping with someone is not the same thing.”

Most couples have a clear understanding to what is considered cheating in their relationship, though what is cheating to some is not cheating to others, yet the equation is always the same.

To answer the question, the “nonstop need” is a need not being fulfilled; therefore someone will engage in cheating. In some cases the need continues not to be met, which leads to “numerous partners.” In order to end the cycle, one most fulfill the need. In order to fulfill this need, one must know what the need is that needs to be fulfilled. Once the need has been identified one must then perform the action that will fulfill the need. After the action is complete, the person will enter a conscious state of need fulfillment or an unfulfilled state. This cycle is what I refer to as the Fulfillment Cycle. If the need is not fulfilled the cycle will continue until the need has been fulfilled. The fulfillment of a need is not in the action but in the mental state afterwards.

THE FULFILLMENT CYCLE

IDENTIFYING THE NEED

Think hard. I mean reach deep into yourself and find the need that needs to be fulfilled. In great detail, describe how this need must be fulfilled. It is important to have a clear understanding to how the need must be fulfilled. The reason being is that if the need is not fulfilled exactly then there will be a continual need to fulfill the need. Identifying the need is the most important and hardest part of the Fulfillment Cycle.

THE ACTION

After the need has been identified, then one can perform the action to fulfill the need. Remember that in order to fulfill the need, the action has to be exactly like the need.

MENTAL STATE

Only after the action is performed will you be able to determine if the need is fulfilled. The action does not fulfill the need; a need can only be fulfilled mentally. If the person fills that the need has been fulfilled, the person will experience a euphoria type felling. If the person does not feel that the need has been fulfilled, then that person will feel a frustrated type feeling. In the case of most cheaters, this feeling of need unfulfillment is typically mistaken for guilt.

As I have tried to stay away from mentioning sex, I will use sex as an example here. Assume you have a sexual fantasy need to perform an act of sex in a park. Masturbation to the thought of the idea will not fulfill the mental need that would be needed to fulfill the fantasy. Until the action of the sexual act in the park is fulfilled exactly as the fantasy, you will always have the need to fulfill this fantasy. Even though masturbation does fulfill the physical needs it does not fulfill the mental urges of a sexual fantasy.

Conclusion

As long as you can think, you will always have needs. Society has made the fulfillment of some needs taboo. What Man Reason recommends is that the best option is to be truthful to yourself and try to fulfill your needs. No I am not recommending you cheat, but as I said, each couple has their own beliefs to what is and what isn’t cheating. What couples normally do not have is how to deal with those urges. You see when it comes to a relationship there are some things you can talk about and some things you cannot. Cheating hardly comes up in a relationship conversation unless it is actually happening. Few couples sit down and talk about how to avoid cheating, or the feelings that lead to cheating. In my opinion it is possible to have a happy fulfilling relationship, and still be able to fulfill your needs. Relationships take work and compromise.

You will never have a fulfilling relationship until you indentify what a fulfilling relationship is.

Communication is the key to a successful relationship. I have no sympathy or empathy for someone who is cheated on by someone who has tried to open the line of conversation attempting to talk about the wants and needs of themselves and for the relationship.

Man Reason


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Lights, Camera, Action: Why You Cannot Make a Good Home Porn Movie

Welcome to Man Reason!!! Before I get to my topic, I like to do what is kind of like an editorial, blogitorial, postitorial. Pick one, I prefer postitorial. Anyways, so on the last post, there was this comment.

Anonymous said...

Why don't you focus more on sex and why! Meaning why is there a nonstop need to have it and from numerous partners?


So that will be my next focus point. Gotta do some research and take some polls on why do people cheat? I’m not saying why do men cheat, but why do people cheat.

Also be looking out for my short story post explaining the Levels of Sexuality. Call it Man Fiction, or Post Fiction.

Last of the new ideas I got brewing in my head is a post with post ideas. I’m calling it Man Reason Shorts. This post will feature just post topic ideas, and maybe a short synopsis about the idea or the direction I will be taking the idea.

This really wasn’t a postitorial, more like an advertisement for the future.

Lights, Camera, Action: Why You Cannot Make a Good Home Porn Movie

Plain and simple, you cannot make a good porn movie because of your lighting, camera angles, and action. I’m not talking about a movie where you hide the camera behind your stuffed animals or have your friend record you from inside the closet. Nor am i talking about the video where you kept yourself hidden from the camera’s view, only shooting the girl so you could show your boys later. Lastly, I am not talking about most of the home amateur videos that populate the amateur scene right now. What I am talking about, is a porn movie so good that you could sell it. One that you would not be ashamed to show your mother. What I will be describing is how to make a home porn movie that will accomplish your video making fantasies.

LIGHTS

Porn and Hollywood movies are lit brightly unless the lighting is to achieve some effect. Porn movies especially are lit so you can see what is going on. If you were to look on most online amateur sites, the only lighting typically is from the normal house lighting or sun light shining through the nearby window. Unless you plan on purchasing a light kit, which some you can find for under $500, then I would suggest checking your camera settings and making sure you adjust the settings to the type of light source you are shooting under. Remove all shades and covers from over the light source. Another technique to try is bouncing the light source off the wall. If you still are unable to achieve half way descent lighting, the easy thing you can do is move the light source closer to the subjects or the subjects closer to the lights. And also don’t forget to white balance.

CAMERA

Remember that there are two or more cameras recording a typical porn movie. Unless you are into POV movie style then a tripod is the only option to obtain similar camera angles. Achieving the angles in the movies would take a lot of stop and starting back up. Stop, move the camera, shoot, stop, move the camera, shoot. Unless you got an actor that is willing, this will become boring and time consuming. But if you doing POV then this shouldn’t be problem you just have to practice on getting your angles and learning how to reduce the camera shake. My suggestion, just explain to your actor that you are trying to achieve a certain angle and explain why. Also I recommend finding a movie with that particular shot and showing your actor. That way it is known exactly what you are trying to achieve.

ACTION

Okay, first you have to convince your actor to let you record the two of you having sex. The second thing is, as I said before, you are attempting to make a “real porn movie” not an amateur movie. With that said, what does a movie porn or Hollywood have? If you said acting, then you are correct! Pop in any porn and you will hear the actors moaning, groaning, and talking dirty. There will be extreme sexual positions, don’t try these at home type, and an intensity to the sex that is beyond what most people do, ever. Now go to any amateur site and notice the lack there of. Typically what you see is real sex. Porn sex and real sex are two different things. Before you begin, tell your actor, “Over act please!” Tell what you need to be said, and how you need it to be said. Have you heard of an acting coach? Well that is what you are. Teach your actor how, when, where, and why. As silly as it sounds, the sound will make the video less silly. Getting over the “this is stupid” or “I sound stupid” will be the hardest part of all of this.

In short, the only way to make a good home porn movie is with practice. Practice with everything from the lighting to the acting. Act like you are having the best sex you have ever had. Always remember that it is a movie for you to enjoy. What’s the point of making the movie if you don’t?

Man Reason

NEXT POST: Fulfillment: The Art of Cheating

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Welcome Plus Football

Welcome to Man Reason!!!!

Well I was told that to have a successful blog, I need to write it as if I am writing for a newspaper or journal. To that I say, what’s a newspaper? Recently, a friend came to me and said, “Look at this,” showing me what resembled a “newspaper.”

He continued, “What happened to the newspaper? I have never seen it this small” Truthfully, me neither. The paper that I were use to as a kid were pages and pages, but now it was just a page.

Yes the paper is dead, so why would I write my blog like a paper?

THIS IS MY FIRST POST!!!!!

I’m going to start this blog with my football Man Reason predictions.

College BCS Championship: USC vs. Florida

NFL Superbowl: Tennessee vs. Carolina


Here’s my friend and guest blog author plus another good friend of mine picks. We have a “bragging rights” competition going on here.

Big Dave

College BCS Championship: Florida vs. Ohio St

NFL Superbowl: Tennessee vs. Dallas

Mr. Dillen

College BCS Championship: Florida vs. Penn St

NFL Superbowl: Pittsburgh vs. Philly

Welcome to Man Reason!!!!!!!!!!!

NEXT POST: Lights, Camera, Action: Why You Can’t Make A Good Home Porn Movie

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